Dating: Always Be Truthful

1. Don't set yourself up for failure by being someone you aren't. Trying to falsely impress a date will backfire eventually.

2. Don't lie! Be truthful about your age, your marital status or any other information that's necessary to form a trusting bond with someone you are interested in enough to date. They deserve the full truth of who you are.

3. Be truthful, but leave some mystery. Don't disclose everything about yourself so early on. Let the "getting to know you" stage of dating, evolve slowly and naturally.

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Advantages/Disadvantages of Meeting on Dating Sites

Meeting people through online dating sites has gained popularity. People use online dating venues for various reasons. Some have exhausted the usual means of meeting others and some have very busy lives and find online sites to be convenient. For some, it's a matter of curiosity.

Advantages:

Meeting people online means connecting with a wider variety in a quicker amount of time.

You can browse people in your town or within any proximity you choose.

You can find people with the same interests, the same dating goals and other personal preferences.

You can go at the pace you choose by corresponding through email, private messages or phone before meeting in person.

For those that are tired of the bar scene, online dating offers a unique way of meeting people you otherwise may never meet.

Disadvantages:

It's easy to be anyone you want to be online. Some people are truthful, while some tell blatant lies and even use someone else's photos.

Online dating can be competitive. Often you have to stand out from the rest in order to maintain regular correspondence enough to make that first meeting. If you don't catch their interest, they will move on to the next.

You may have to go through several matches before you find someone who you are compatible with - even then, some are lax in maintaining online contact.

Overall:

Online dating can work if you use patience, caution and know what you want going in.


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What to Talk About on a First Date

When dating, a good first impression means a good chance of a second date. Physical attraction is important to most, but what we say goes a long way in capturing and holding the other's attention. It's also just as important to listen to your date attentively.

A first date should be about getting to know each other on the surface and a little below, but not so deep there's no mystery left. Create a comfortable atmosphere that puts your date at ease.

Don't ask questions that are too personal or too controversial. Interaction shouldn't be one-sided, but a balance between two people. Know when to be the speaker and when to be the listener. Your mannerisms can be as important as what you say. Be polite, respectful and use manners.

MUSIC

Music is a wonderful topic and can be expanded upon. Most everyone likes music. Find out the genres your date likes. You can build on this by asking about specific bands, artists, songs and what interests them about each. I like to discuss interpretation of lyrics. That opens a broad line of communication.

PLACES

Discussing places you've lived or traveled to can be very interesting. You may find you've had similar experiences or vastly different experiences you can learn from. Ask details. Ask what they liked or disliked about places they've lived or traveled to. You can learn if they like cold or warm climates, a bustling city or simplistic country life or something in between.

MOVIES

Movies, old and new, can create a wealth of discussion from the type of movies each likes to specific actors. Maybe they prefer adventure or horror movies as opposed to romantic or comedy. This choice helps give an insight to the type of person your date is.

PETS

Ask if they have any pets. This gives a good idea of compatibility. If they hate cats and you have a dozen of them, you might have a problem. Their reaction will be quite telling. Some people can tolerate pets and there are those who cannot stand to be around them. Couples have broken up over issues such as this. Better to know early on.

FAVORITE FOOD

Everyone eats so this topic can't go wrong. Discussing the many types of food can lead to knowing if they like to eat out or prefer to eat at home and also if they enjoy cooking. You may find your date is such a good cook they could be a chef or they don't know how to boil an egg.

LEISURE TIME

Asking about what they do in their leisure time can give you an idea if they are more the couch potato type or the more adventurous. You'll be able to gauge if your interests are similar enough should a relationship evolve. You'll also learn how interested they are in what you like to do and how they react to your choices.

SIBLINGS

Asking about siblings shows an interest in family life, but doesn't get too personal. You'll learn if they have close family ties and experiences they have had with siblings. They may offer a glimpse into their childhood which can be fascinating.

SPORTS

Some people hate sports and some are fanatics. Again, this topic can offer a view of your compatibility level. A love for the same types of sports can draw people close together and certainly involve many interesting discussions.

WHAT NOT TO DO

* Don't talk about controversial subjects. This can lead to tension.
* Don't talk about your ex. This implies you still have loose ends.
* Don't talk about finances. This is too personal for a first date.
* Don't lie to impress. Lies come out eventually and you'll be seen as a fool.
* Don't have a wandering eye. Focus on your date. A wandering eye isn't respectful.

Remember...too much, too soon of anything has a tendency to make a bad impression. Go slow, be yourself and keep things simple! Focus on your date so they know you are genuinely interested.

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